|Dress-C/O Eloquii (Love this one and this one), Shoes (Similar)|
A few weeks ago I got reminded that there are some people who don't value me based upon my fatness. I went to an event and got treated less than equal to the other bloggers in attendance due to the fact that I am plus-size. At first I was extremely sad. I fell to a place of sadness that I haven't been in quite some time. I was ashamed, angry and confused. It almost made me question all of the hard work that I had put into my blog over the years. Had I not established myself as a fashion presence in my city? Was the quality of work not up to par? Or do you simply not want to be associated with my fatness? After wrapping myself in the protective cocoon of the plus-size fashion world, I forgot that some straight size people still hold my body in contempt. Either way it through me for a loop and left me extremely vulnerable. I also decided instantly that I wouldn't neither stay at the event or support the event again.
As I started to bounce back I was reminded that I was loved and that the work I do on this blog isn't just for me, it's for my readers, for women who are looking for fashion inspiration, for young girls to know that your body doesn't have to be perfect in order for you to love yourself or even dress yourself. I simply want to inspire people to get up and get dressed no matter what size you wear!
I was also reminded of somethings that I promised myself a while ago about my body. I will never feel bad about my body. I will never treat my body less than kindly. I will never seek anyone's permission or validation about my body. I will never allow someone's narrow view of beauty and fashion define my idea of beauty or fashion. I will never let the size of my body dictate what I wear or don't wear. I will never let anyone keep me from living in my truth in fashion. I will stay true to my body and it's purpose on earth. I will continue to encourage my readers to love their body and to understand they deserve the best. I will continue women to wear what makes them happy and to love themselves no matter what!
I want to send a huge thank you to the team at Eloquii, they had provided me with a wardrobe for this event, since I was going to do a video diary about it. Since that didn't happen, I went to them to tell them about my experience and once again I was wrapped in the cocoon of love by their team. Instantly they wanted me to know how they could help and who they could complain too. They are like family to me and they truly, truly care about their customers! ( Nope this isn't a sponsored post, just want y'all to know). For that I am forever supportive of their efforts in the industry!
Have you had any reminders of your fatness? How did you deal with it?